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Lessons : People

people are just fascinating creatures. I cant remember a time where I didn't try to understand them or anticipate their needs.

That has always been something that came very natural to me, to see people to try and walk in their shoes. I cant remember who told me that piece of advice "you don't know what they went through"

Being myself, I took that advice almost literally, while not walking in their actual shoes. I did try and do it in my mind. And the most surprising thing is, if you're really open to understanding others. you will see and understand their point of view.

While the concept of people watching is something that can keep me busy for hours on end. I fear I sometimes get sucked into their stories. Like a method actor meets matrix meets inception. I don't always know what's real and when I'm being messed with.

While I do try to be more suspicious, my nature to believe is a strong one, and I am not sure its a habit I want to change. While the world and people try and tell me that I shouldn't take their word.
I also know that some people are exactly what they tell you they are.

So I have some thoughts on what I have learnt about people:

1. Most people crave acceptance for who they are (almost everything I will list comes back to this]
2. Everyone will try and manipulate situations to their benefit [this doesn't make them evil]
3. Passive Aggressive people will say and do things to get a reaction from you, but mostly do it for the attention (see point 1)
4. People are afraid of being themselves.
5. Social and emotional cues are learnt, but some people never get it. (so you can school or sneer at them - your choice depending on how much of a tool bag you are)
6. Bravado and bullshit are the insecure persons best weapons, try to look pass this.
7. Give people a second chance at a first impression


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No matter how much I overcome,
or how much I endure

There always seems to be more venom
than there is a cure

I can't keep at it, this continuous struggle that's not real, but my reality
No matter how many of my demons I slay,
I have to fight and fight
new foes, new days.

Ya Allah, why is the first thing that leaves me, is my faith?
Why is that the hard part.

People who usually talk about Tawakkul, don't know anything about
the trouble and struggle of what it is.

What world is it, that we will live in, that allows people to play with others fate
Who don't have the emotional maturity to look for context.
To hate me because Im a misfit.(misfit is the excuse)
Maybe because Im not thin. or don't belong to the same clubs
Or maybe you just don't like a large brown woman telling you what to do.

Maybe you're the douche bag, but now it's me who must fight,
I don't WANT to, but I will HAVE to