Simply Aasia

I have awesome friends who say things like suck it up every single thing the worlds throws at you pick it up Your self respect and belief Show up even when you don't want to or have crappy tickets Lighten up when your troubles are held up by them Unchain you who slap your wrist when you're making a stupid anything Force you to see yourself and stand up Blessed for friends who turn up the 25 year old Shaman the 29 year old medicine women the 30 year old philosopher the 40 year old realist the single digit little ones and the blood related ones.

you reduce my life to a #hashtag on a social site you bring a cannon to a gun fight I will not hate you, someone has to break the cycle of violence. For all the kids in Palestine and Israel, I will pray for your safety this day. I will pray for your understanding and for your tolerance. Hate begets hate. I will not hate Happy 1434 #endtheviolence

Tight chested and feeling like I am about to throw up breakfast I sit waiting to see her, you see I had been avoiding her for about 3 weeks because the questions were getting tough. "I think something is wrong" I say to her "I feel kak. Not ill or sad, just kak" "When was the last time you cried Aasia?" "Last week in the car on the N1" Well you obviously hate traffic then. *side eyes* So much has happened this year and as I slowly wrap my head around the drama, death and deceit. I find myself wondering what I thought I was going to achieve. "You act like you can't get hurt Aasia" Yes I get hurt. All.the.time. Except I am a cry in the shower and breathe slowly in a dark room kind of person. Because I rationalise. if I fall apart, who will pick up my pieces? "But you're lying to yourself again Aasia, you're not going to fall apart. You just dont want people to believe that you hurt now, and that its so...

Zuma's "african way" remarks sparks concern. This story about Prez Zuma " The Centre for Constitutional Rights expressed concern over President  Jacob Zuma 's reported comments that the justice system was "the white man's way" for solving "African problems". I might not be the man's greatest fan at the best of times, but I think Prez Zuma has a point. If we as a people conduct ourselves using tradition and our culture as the reference to how we live, why on earth would any justice system work for us? Many might disagree with it, hoever we only have to look at honour killings and child marriages in Islam (Here I am talking about the UK) Entire communities hush up when police officers enter the area with whispers of abuse happen. But no one will out the abuser at all. I see it in the coloured communities as well, although I still call the police when I witness doemstic abuse, battered wives wont file charges. Under-age drinkin...

Stolen from a friends blog, they know who they are, but summed up 2012 for me: The last few days have, for reasons unknown, brought to light issues of friendship, loyalty, and trust. What IS friendship? To you? There are people I’ve known for years who are less friend to me than people I’ve known for mere months. How odd is that? There are friends who I have known for years, who I realise now, are not *true* friends. According to my personal definition of *true*. All of this has also highlighted how lucky I am to actually have people I consider sincere friends. Then there’s this issue of Trust. You never really realise how much it means til there’s a shortage of it. And I don’t even mean the kind of trust that involves spades, skellingtons and blood oaths of silence. The simple trust of day to day relationships is what I mean. I’ve seen trust erode this year, like never before. And it pains me. And makes me feel like a paranoid git. And it wears me down. For better or worse, I pre...